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Ellen Goldberg's avatar

This is wonderful. I love the book A Little Princess. And I love the detail of messing up the fireplace and leaving reindeer prints on the cars.

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Phyllis B Clark's avatar

When in the Peace Corps in South Africa, Father Christmas came to Khaya Tshepo, the creche where I was assigned. Each child got ONE TOY and that was probably the only one they received. They were so happy with that one gift. It made me ashamed for the way my grandchildren acted with so many gifts. Rip, tear, what's next.

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Zanny Merullo Steffgen's avatar

It's all what you get used to, I guess! What a fascinating experience that must have been for you...

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Phyllis B Clark's avatar

It was. Your father and I may be the only RPCVs from Revere.

PC

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Zanny Merullo Steffgen's avatar

You have all my admiration!

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Roland Merullo's avatar

Yes, it's a small club for sure. When I first came home from the Peace Corps the modern world looked absolutely absurd to me. Zan's right: it's all what you get used to. The experience definitely made me more appreciative.

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Robert Braile's avatar

A thoughtful exchange, Zan and Pa, as always, offering so many perspectives on generosity, so many ways of thinking about what should be a given in life, but unfortunately is not. I'm always surprised by the surprise in those to whom we're generous, reminding me of its inexplicable rarity. To the generous, it's no rarity at all, but a way of life. Imagine light against darkness, to paraphrase Virginia Woolf, slants of light piercing a seemingly impenetrable darkness, expressions of who we can be, of who we should be. Thanks for the exchange. --Bob

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Zanny Merullo Steffgen's avatar

I'm also surprised by the surprise of people on the receiving end of generosity. Is the alternative taking generosity for granted? Or is there something in between?

Happy Holidays, Bob!

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Robert Braile's avatar

Hi Zanny,

It'd be hard to imagine what the alternative would be to the surprise of generosity. I wouldn't want to take generosity for granted, because then generosity wouldn't be generosity, no longer exceptional as an expression. But yes, the opposite extreme--the rarity of generosity--seems unfortunate, a lessening of possibility. Perhaps just a little more generosity, which seems right to write on Christmas Day. Happy Holidays to you, too, Zanny. --Bob

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Roland Merullo's avatar

Just a little more would change the world. Just moving the boundaries of our kindness a couple of inches would absolutely change the world.

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post island's avatar

A wonderful perspective on true sharing and gifting!

Gratefully,

Mike and Cyndy Cotter -Quinc, Ma

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Francesca Schwab's avatar

Thank you for this ♥️

I just read a beautiful piece in the book “Braiding Sweetgrass”, ( lovingly given to me by my granddaughter), on generosity. Your dialogue has driven it home‼️

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Roland Merullo's avatar

If every well fed American would just give a meal's worth of charity a day to hunger causes, there would be no hunger here.

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Roland Merullo's avatar

Francesca, All of Dessert with Buddha is about this. I'm really convinced that crazy generosity could cure most of our ills. Thanks for the comment.

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